How to Stop Beating Yourself Up
How to Stop Beating Yourself Up
Self-Compassion and Self-Esteem - The Friend Advice Technique

Today we’re going to talk about beating yourself up. Whether you made a stupid mistake, you lost your cool with someone you care about or you’re just a perfectionist with imposter syndrome - It’s easy to get sucked into the toilet hole of beating yourself up. 

And then you do this ridiculous thing which I’m going to call the “The Self-Exemption-Bias” which keeps you trapped in the cycle. 

Being too hard on yourself decreases your confidence and your sense of self-esteem and self-worth. 

But the good news is that you can learn to stop beating yourself up, improve your self-esteem and learn to feel self-compassion and love. 

Most of you are highly sensitive people, you internalize things, you’d never treat another person the way you’re treating yourself. This is what I call the self-exemption-bias where for some ridiculous reason, you believe that you’re the exception to this whole-kindness thing. That everyone else out there deserves gentle understanding, second chances, and a listening ear, but you’re the only person in the entire population of 8 billion people who deserves to be treated like crap.

You really value it when your friend opens up about their struggles, but if you share then you spend the next day beating yourself up for oversharing. 


  • 0:00 Introduction
  • 0:35 Beating Yourself Up
  • 1:51 How the Self-Exemption Bias Leads to Beating Yourself Up
  • 2:52 How to Practice Self-Compassion
Author, educator, musician, dancer and all around creative type. Founder of "The Happy Now" website and the online jewelry store "Silver and Sage".

What's your reaction?


0 comment

Write the first comment for this!

Facebook Conversations